Original working sheet · The Handbook · English

First negotiation

Read the decisions before you choose a script.

This is the First negotiation working sheet from the Handbook’s appendix. Use your browser’s print menu to print or save it as a PDF. No account is required.

Use these sheets to record decisions you have actually discussed. Leave out fields that genuinely do not apply and say why. An unanswered question about a required stop, release or support arrangement means the plan needs more work.

Date / planned session:

 

Participants and roles:

 

Who may observe, and under what conditions:

 

Location / access / privacy / permitted activity:

 

What each person wants from this session:

 

Agreed activities, named specifically:

 

Hard limits:

 

Soft limits requiring further discussion:

 

Window for today, including maximum duration:

 

Induction / script / version:

 

Equipment / who supplies it / who knows how to use and release it:

 

Relevant positioning, communication or comfort limits:

 

Existing cues authorised today:

 

New cues, if any: meaning / authorised person / context / expiry:

 

Verbal stop / nonverbal signal / test in the actual setup:

 

Changes that require the Top to end without waiting for a signal:

 

Ordinary ending: what the Top says and does:

 

Interrupted ending: what the Top says and does:

 

Emergency access / phone / address / person who calls:

 

Aftercare and later contact:

 

Who may change or end the plan: either participant. No reason required.

Mira Janssen · For consenting adults, 18+. Not therapy; no promised outcome.