Anal Without the Pain — tension is the real obstacle

Almost everything that goes wrong here goes wrong for one reason: something was attempted faster than the body was willing to stop guarding against it.

Pain in this context is rarely injury and almost always a reflex — muscles closing because they do not know what is coming. Courage does not fix that, and neither does lubricant. A different state does, and that is what the self-hypnosis in this book is for: alongside the agreements made beforehand and a pace measured in evenings rather than minutes.

By Mira Janssen, author of the standard work “Erotic Hypnosis: The Handbook”.

What is in it

• The self-hypnosis method, written out — for releasing the tension, alone or read aloud.
• What gets agreed first — the points in plain words, so nobody has to guess.
• The build-up across several evenings instead of one: what happens on evening one, and what expressly does not.
• Reading tension — in yourself and in the other person, before it turns into pain.
• Breath, position, pace: the three adjustments, in that order.
• Stopping: how to end it so nobody feels they failed — and the aftercare that follows.

What it is not

Not medical advice. Persistent pain, bleeding or an existing condition belongs with a doctor, not in a chapter of a guide.